Out of control and so upset with myself.

[Little_Leopard]

Hey @tyme!

thank you for checking in. If I am being honest I am really struggling. Lots of derealisation tension headaches and dizziness. It could be much worse though. 
thanks for asking and checking in. The forums have been an added support that I have really used to help me be less isolated. I am  already socially isolated and tend to withdraw even more when things ramp up but I have been able to use the forums as a safe kind of social support that feels good and safe for me.

I suppose this weekend has been a little cold. I actually enjoy a bit of coldness, it’s my good friend in hard times. When I’m going through tough times the cold helps to snap me out of panic and other intense experiences that I have. 

How about you @tyme? Has it been cold for you? Do you like or dislike the cold?. I hope your weekend has been enjoyable so far 

[Former-Member]

Hi @Little_Leopard 

So sorry it has taken me ages to get back to you.

I have been helping someone look at a tv. What a job that is these days. Tech overload.

Also we went to the cemetry to see my friends mother.

So l actually did not respond.

And that also is my weekend summed up.

You mention the only safe people are your husband and son. People did not understand me and pushed me to be social. I advised them, when going through things, i find it better to isolate myself or be one good person, in your case 2, because just do not understand how much effort it is to function and the last thing we need is to hear flippant ways to fix things.

Which in a way confirms l think we should not say much. Many do not care that much. So why open up? We know who really listens.

Safe and healthy relationships. Great goal. I still like to not say much and little about me. I like to hear how new friends talk about others. A pastor at my first chyrch said be careful telling others what you are going through. They will all have an opinion. And each week tge opinion changes.

Also for example if you say you are looking for a job. Every week, have you got a job yet?  So i find peace in listenjng more and not telling others.

I apologise because l usually reply quicker.

I had to give my friend full attention.

Thank you for helping me write my 2nd book on this forum. Ha Ha.

Sorry about late reply. Nothing to do with you. I like to think when i write

[Former-Member]

Hi @Little_Leopard 

I just got back.

I just sent my 2nd book to you.

At the same time i see @tyme checked and you replied.

I have to reply quickly to one part.

In the heat of my issues, l sat in my office with the air conditioning on.

So l also found the coolness helped me.

Amazing!

[Former-Member]

Hi @NatureLover 

Thanks for sharing @Little_Leopard 

I do enjoy the reads because they are Life Experiences.

You show a lot of empathy and compassion for someone who has been through a lot.

I congratulate you.

Some end up so bitter. Bitter does not help. It often makes us more like the ones we are getting away from

[NatureLover]

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@Little_Leopard wrote:

I feel like we have so much in common @NatureLoverwith some of our overlapping symptoms. it’s confirmation to me that trauma does cause these effects to happen. I see it over and over again with us trauma folk. It’s undeniable the similarities and affects trauma has.

Yes, true @Little_Leopard 😞

Thanks for your kind words. 

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@Little_Leopard wrote:

I’m only at the beginning on my therapy journey. Still building trust and in the stabilisation phase which is taking a very long time for me.

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Sorry this is taking a long time for you...but it is so important, the trust. Good luck...