I can’t cope

[Captain24]

I’ve just had a text from her saying I have to walk the dogs with her. I need to get out of the house. @tyme 

I talked to a mutual friend the other day. I’m scared she has told mum some things. I’m actually shaking at the thought of seeing her. What if she has told mum. 

Yeah.. she is starting to not have much to do with him. He doesn’t even know that dad broke his arm. 

I now need to find some spoons to deal with this. 

Wish me luck

[tyme]

I'm sorry to hear about the rupture between your parents and your brother. That sounds tough. As I've always said, parents don't get any younger.

Finally, I snapped and told my mum to stop talking. She's washing dishes now... I feel bad about it, but I couldn't have the talking continue lol...

I wonder if a walk with your mum will turn out better than you expected? If you need to say anything, it's good to let it out while walking because you are not facing each other which means it's less confronting. I wonder if your mutual friend has noticed the change in you and told your mum?

All the best. I'll be here after if you need a debrief.

[Captain24]

My brother just doesn’t answer when we call or text. I got him an Optimus Prime lego set for Christmas. The courier says that it’s in transit and has been for over a week. I have msg’d him 3 times to ask if he has a card to pick it up and he won’t respond. It’s at the point that none of us can just be bothered with him. If it gets returned to sender I’m going to be so pissed off. He is just selfish, self-centred and inconsiderate. It wasn’t cheap. 

Sorry about that. I’m just sick of him. I really resent him. 

Have you and your mum settled yet? 

The walk was all innocent. I don’t think she knows anything. I think it was just for my wellbeing. I didn’t really talk much though. I just didn't have it in me. I’ve just got nothing in me. 

I have so much more in me that I need to get out. 

[tyme]

I wonder if your brother is okay, or whether something has happened @Captain24 . I hear how annoying it is that he hasn't replied. I just hope he's okay! As you said, you sent him that lego for Christmas and he still hasn't responded.... 

I'm glad the walk was okay. It's okay if you didn't talk much. Just getting out of the house is a help. Sometimes, it doesn't need words for parents to know what's going on. 

Feel free to email if you need to Captain @Captain24 

Oh, with my mum, we're fine. I just needed her to stop talking at me. After 3 hours, I think it's pretty reasonable lol. I never argue to hate my parents. We don't really argue. We might just get frustrated and walk off - no hard feelings attached.. it's a strange relationship

[Captain24]

He is ok. @tyme. He is just arrogant and never gets back to us. I didn’t even get a merry Christmas text from him or his daughter. 

Im glad it’s that easy with your mum. It’s good that you can have that relationship and no one holds grudges. 

[tyme]

Oh, so it's not unusual that he doesn't get back to you. Oh well, each to their own.

How's your dad anyway @Captain24 ? How's his treatment?

[Captain24]

Dad finished treatment just before Christmas @tyme. He has a phone appointment in March to have follow up scans to see if the radiation worked.

He also starts physio this week for his broken arm. He has been in the wars. 

How long are you staying at the holiday house for? 

[tyme]

Poor thing @Captain24 

I wonder if treatment weakened his bones ?

I'm away for about 5 days @Captain24 

But I'll still be working whilst away. 

Anyway, I'm off now. I'll talk to you later this week 🙂

Just keep plodding along. 

[Captain24]

Thanks for everything @tyme. I really appreciate it. 

Enjoy your time. 

[NatureLover]

Thinking of you @Captain24 ...are you working this week? Night shift or day shift? 

I hope you are OK...