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[Captain24]

I found it interesting @tyme. I love the analogy. All the thoughts can scroll through I just don’t have to pick them up. It’s ok to have good, bad and neutral thoughts. I just need to learn not to pick all of them up. Just let them roll on bye

[tyme]

Exactly @Captain24 ! It doesn't mean you have to wish it away. Just don't choose or pick it up!

Russ Harris has also other very simple and effective clips he has developed e.g. about anxiety, about stress, about happiness.

Happy to hear what you think - only if you are interested.

tyme

[Steven78]

It just seems so impersonal on here for me because it is just text in a forum and no talking and no connection.

[Captain24]

Hi @Steven78 

I’m sorry you feel that way. I feel like I have made a few connections on here that I wouldn’t be able to make in the outside world. I feel as though the friends I’ve made on here accept me for who I am with out judgement and with understanding. 

Captain24

[Steven78]

Thanks. Yeah I've not met one person on here that I've talked to ,either on the phone or in person ..I get that it's a forum and people have their own problems but it seems incredibly impersonal for me .

[tyme]

I hear you @Steven78 . I used to think the same. But you know what? I used these forums as a 'practice' ground for real world conversations and interactions.

For example, if someone asks you how you are in the real world, honestly, at this point, how would you answer? Would you general gist of it be the same and what you'd type on the forums?

Anyway, these forums are anonymous, so you can also practice making mistakes and getting up again.

Remember @Steven78 , this is a START. It doesn't mean the rest of your life will be text based and online.

Soooo... do you have any plans for tomorrow? 

Waiting to hear from you, tyme

[Steven78]

I tried and the fact not one person wants to actually talk to me tells me everything I already knew.

Texting is great for convenience but is not conducive to getting to know someone.

[tyme]

It's true what you have written @Steven78 . Written text has its own weakness (and strengths).

I read your messages, I feel I am getting to know you better. Doesn't mean I know everything, but it's a start.

Hence, it would be good to know the things you ARE interested in (only if you want to of course). Ultimately, the call is yours.

I'm here to listen and converse if you give me the chance.

tyme

[Steven78]

Completely up to others if they want to talk ,I understand that. That's something I know all to well about isolation and worthlessness.

[Steven78]

Completely up to anyone else if they wanted to get to know me.

If someone wants to know about me they'd talk to me.

That's not something I have a choice over though ,that choice is for others to make in order to actually talk to me !

Up to you or anyone if they want to talk ?