Friends, Family & Carers Forum

[ButterflySky970]

I am a single mum of a 17 yr old son who has multiple interleccual disabilities.

We  live in Tasmania, in a small country town.

looking for some 1 to talk to that actually understands.

I have no friends,my son has no friends

I have multiple health issues also

I feel like I have no life,no supports

[Former-Member]

Hi @ButterflySky970 

That was a good summary.

I hope this form gives some life to you

It is with Life experienced people

17 years old. All ages are hard, but that age can be a changing point as they reach adulthood.

I understand the isolated feel. For me I isolated so I did not have to hear from people without experience "Have you tried this? Have you tried That? 

So do you isolate to avoid the comments or are you trying to meet others?

Contrary to what I just wrote, I did join a Pentecostal Church in the end. I realised many people have issues. I realise they were my friends for that day. I found the whole place very accepting of all. I also found doing jobs there as a volunteer opened up avenues for me.  There is no magic pill.

We have to manage what we are going through and find like minded like here on Sane

I hope it will not be long before people reply with supports.

sane has Counselling and Forums

LifeLine is handy for a quick vent

I hope you find friends here and I will look out for your posts.

[ButterflySky970]

I would like to meet other people in a similar situation as me.
I live in a very "everybody knows your business town"
I live in a "Ill be your friend if you drink,gossip with me" town

[Former-Member]

Hi @ButterflySky970 

I found small towns, first 3 months every one is friendly. Next 3 months you hear all the gossip. Third 3 months you are part of the Gossip.

I am helping someone in a small area now. I tread carefully. I do not say much. So it gets back to the safety of isolation to a point.

I hope you find answers on this forum.

I hear you want a similar position friend or group. Good idea.

(silly question)

Have you tried Sane, Lifeline and Beyond Blue for referral services?

I know others here will offer better ideas later.

Some forum answers take a while

A moderator may pick it up for good input.

I am also aware you would have tried what you could and that is why you are reaching out.

[ButterflySky970]

I live in my home town, have been here for 53 years, dont really speak to many here as people like to twist it all up and make it all about them if they help me for 5 minutes or they plain and simply use me for their own advantages
yes I have tried many different groups , support groups,

[Former-Member]

Hi @ButterflySky970 

Sorry for stating the obvious.

I used to get upset when people did

I understand people twisting stories.

I leave tools at my friends country property to maintain lawns etc. I had things stolen last week.

Our neighbour there had keys, wallet and car stolen. Yes Car. I heard the stories about car and then the neighbour told me what happened. Amazing how I think Chinese whispers they call it, changes things. But that is life I suppose.

53 years in a small town.

This is up to you.

I suggest you change your Sane name

It seems to have too much personal information based on assuming the 53 years

This forum is anonymous and I want you to feel safe.

[ButterflySky970]

How do I change it

[Former-Member]

Hi @ButterflySky970    @SANE-Admin 

I have just added Admin in to reply

We need our anonymity

I will check and see if they reply.

Sadly honest people who are often vulnerable need protecting.

[Former-Member]

@ButterflySky970   @SANE-Admin 

Some one will reply.

It does not matter.

Your post is safe. I am just saying as you continue.

In the mean time, think of a new name when they contact you

[hanami]

Hi @ButterflySky970 

I'll send you an email. I'm one of the moderators and can help with the name change.

Warmest wishes

Hanami